Father's Day Frowns

Father's Day is coming up this weekend. It's hard not to think about it sometimes, especially when I see everything around me being marketed as great Father's Day gifts. I will see things from time to time and think to myself how much my dad would love it, then remember that I can't exactly give it to him.

I've concocted my own way of dealing with this and other holidays such as his birthday and Christmas. Instead of buying or making something that I would give my dad, I have decided to do or change something in my life in a positive way. I want to improve my life to make my dad proud. I firmly believe that he is allowed to watch me and my family and so he will notice my gift to him.

Here are some ideas:
- doing something really special for my mom, something my dad would have done
- devoting myself more to things that were important to my dad like church or music
- building a classical music collection like he always tried to help me to appreciate
- perfecting chess, a game he enjoyed and always tried to teach me
- using the piano he helped me get to bring music and hymns in the home by playing hymns every Sunday
- connecting with some relatives on his side of the family, keeping important relationships with them that he worked hard to establish
- continue his extensive genealogy work
- donate money/time to the local symphony

Again, these are just ideas that I had which are very specific to my dad. I would suggest that you sit down and outline the main things that were important in your loved one's life and do something to honor or support that work. Holidays are not going to be easy, but knowing that I am doing something for my dad even though he isn't here will hopefully make them easier.